Comments on: 4 Reasons Why She Doesn't Call You Back

By: Confuuused

Confuuused — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 22:22:23 +0000

I had a similar experience the other night as Russel. A highschool friend requested me on the Fbook; we got to talking and then eventualy went out last weekend. We just went to a casual bar and had a few drinks to catch up. After a few beers and some decent conversation we met up with her friends at another place. There was lots of talking going on at that point between everyone, while she was sitting next to me she was placing her hand on my leg and things of that nature, I was obliged to smile, gave her an elbow and just had fun with it, which I did. So the night ended as it always does and she kind of abruptly wanted to have her girlfriend take her home, which I didn't really know how take but said ok. As we were walking to the car she turned around and hugged me, I don't know if it was the beer, but I went in for the kiss, she kissed back..it happened a couple times actualy so it wasn't as if she recoiled. Regardless, when I got home she called me about 30 minutes later
which came as a suprise, and we talked for a bit until she was falling asleep, literaly. I figgured since she broke the call barrier that it would be ok to call the next day and possibly set something up, we we're going to do something, but apperently family plans happened all of assuden. Again, I said ok that's cool have fun. Next day "superbowl" I send her a text at like 4pm asking what was up..she responds 2 hours later that she was at a superbowl party, I just responding "same..want to call me when you get home?" She replies definately…but she never did, and I don't know if she will. I know I might just being going nuts in my own head, but I'm pretty good at picking up on vibes, and it really feels like since the day she turned me down to be with her family that something happened. It went from pure awesome and smooth, to I feel like a stalker if I wanted to call her. Truth is I know the game pretty well, I know what/how to do/act, but I think I may have met my match. Ever since the kiss she has been paraiding in my mind, and I'm fighting with every bit of will to not text her and be like "You're perfect, Date me..or I'll get my club"

By: len

len — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 04:15:17 +0000

alright i need some help!!! ok so i was out last night, and i saw an old friend but not just an old friend, this girl is a sister to a girl that liked me 8 years ago!! shes extremely beautiful, and we always had this flirty attitude w/eachother when we were young, but back then she never acted on it. so i run into her and shes the head bartender, and i didnt think she wanted to say hi to me so i kinda blew it off. about ten or fifteen minutes later she comes with her friend and has shots (drinks) w/her, and she wanted me take them with her.so i did, and as were standing there we get to talking and she tells me i should get her number, and i told her i'd get it b4 i left. so as i was leaving i had her write it down, and i wrote mine down as well, now i dont know what to do should i text her or call? thank her for the drinks? is this a sure sign she likes me? would it be dumb 2 ask her out? oh and her sister that used to like me is prac. married. please help i dont want to ruin this!

By: Scott Varner

Scott Varner — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 21:13:03 +0000

Keep your expectations low and your exceptance high. I find a good way to do this is to have a very broud and active lifestyle. I agree with Robert Lee, Tell her how, when what, and do not be afraid to say you are pissing me off, or if you don't like it go somewhere else. I have been told several times ahhh your so cute right after saying something to that effect. Just live and learn, and remeber you are the guy. You are the one who is designed to take the leadership role. If you can master this you will be alright. God bless and good fishing :D

By: Robert Lee

Robert Lee — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 16:52:07 +0000

Call her to tell her when you're going to call her next. Try to keep on a proper schedule so that you're the MAN that's running the relationship, not leaving all the contact choices up to her.
Guys make the biggest mistakes by allowing the "fear of rejection" to overcome their otherwise logical thought processes.
When you MEET her the first time, and you get her NUMBER, tell her when you're GOING TO CALL her. And stick to that. Don't put too much importance on one girl (as noted in the above article) but don't leave her wondering why you never called or why you called a week later.

Women are just other people. Don't treat her like a buddy, but don';t be afraid to talk with her… and if you don't have much to say, then just get off the phone.

By: jonny bravo

jonny bravo — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 05:03:10 +0000

Holy S***, guys! i mean, c'mon! just kidding… no replies here? Well I am no ladies' man or i wouldnt be on the website obviously…….. but here ya go:

Kv2200AD – SHE'S a GO-Go dancer! Wake up.. I think MOST of them play by different rules altogether, I mean you got a second meet-up, but at HER workplace. Was she working?? If so, then there you go. Done. Try finding one somewhere else…

Russell – Girls always dress up nice when going out, we're the bums, if one were to not dress up… Okay, you did nice by noticing she was giving the look, but mmmaaayyyybbbeee she is just that – a happy-go-lucky old college friend that is flirty (like so many…) at the club, and maybe she really wanted to kiss, but the laugh and smile as she leaves could have been an indicator.. So maybe the passionate kiss wasn't right for the second time out – for her. Keep it simple at first, mostly.. (there are always exceptions) Then, you messed up. You fell for her! right?! Sounds like it. Don't do that. you knew her before, but now is NOW, she's started over in her head (unless she says/indicates otherwise …) and now you have to treat her as someone you just met.. yeah that sux. Yet you did right by not bugging her with calls and messages. But you said you did call her once with your intentions of meeting her again – did you come off like you were the happiest man alive?? did you possibly speak/act a little too excited in your message? Probably, but maybe not. If you did, ya gotta play that down and it may be too late. So you have to get that notion of how great she is out of your head. bring it back to 2 college friends hanging out. Hell it's been over a month since your post and if you haven't called her since, well, what the hell are you waiting for? just keep it SLOW-ER -in YOUR head, that is. It is hard trying to keep emotion from running amuck in our heads when we met someone we like, and for someone that hasn't met someone else that they actually like in a while, then it is twice as hard. But these emotions just totally F**k things up for us guys. Well except for the players out there, or else they wouldn't be players. a girl wants the same, but if they were to cave in to their feelings and be upfront with everyone they like, then we would all be enjoying a bunch of orgies, because WE definitely wouldn't say no… These 'games' suk, but we all have to play.. or pay to play! Maybe you outta talk to Kv2200AD and find out that GO-GO bar! j/k. … … Or maybe she is a stuck-up B**ch! Aye?? too much? j/k again.

There are plenty of fish out there, if you don't get any bites, try using a different bait (roofies, money, a gun… HAHA, no don't do THAT)

Happy Hunting Fellas!
GAME ON!

By: Russell

Russell — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 07:20:24 +0000

So I ran into an old friend of mine from college. We started talking and I asked for her number at end of night. She gave it and I called. She was busy to go out so I let it go thinking she didn't like me. 3 days later she texts me to go out for drinks. I am busy and tell her I cant but lets do raincheck. She texts me two days later asking me to meet for drinks. I can, and meet up with her. It is obvious she likes me the way she dressed up all pretty and there was deffinite flirting going on. I was a gentleman and didnt try to give goodnight kiss or anything. It had seemed to go well. I still wasnt sure if she thought we were friends or what though. A few days later I ask if she wants to go to club. She says yes and we go out. We dance together and I hold her hand the entire night. Im feeling so happy about this becuase it has been sooo long since I have found someone I liked. At end of night she lingers saying goodbye. And does thta lookk where you know they want to be kissed. So i kiss her and then she turns to leave and i say wait.. and I grab her and kiss her passionately and then we both laugh and she smiles. She leaves. I am the happiest guy in the world at this point. Literally running around at home. I even wait two days before calling her again. She doesnt answer. I leave message saying hey, lets meet up again sometime. I had a lot of fun. I dont text or call her back at all. Its been 4 days now. No call back. I am really sad because I know( i think) i didnt do anything wrong. I didnt pester her with calls or texts… i called once.. and left message saying my intentions of meeting her again. I thought things had gone amazing. I was a gentleman, we laughed and had chemistry, she held my hand the whole night and kept giving me cute flirty looks, and she kissedme for a while before she left. What happened between that and now? I dont think it was out of control for me to call once? Is it just because she is busy? But to me…. isnt it kind of rude after 4 days not to at least text and say hey i had fun too or hey im busy but will let u know when im free? at least then i wouldnt be sitting here being like what the hell happened or what did i do wrong. I am type of person that usually calls too much or ruins it by being too desperate.. But calling once? I was sooo proud of myself. And its not like the date went bad. Obviously it went well. PLEASE ANY HELP WOULD BE GREATLY APPRECIATED. I REALLY LIKE HER A LOT. I THINK SHES AMAZING AND BEAUTIFUL AND SMART AND FUNNY AND IT UPSETS ME THAT I THINK I DID NOTHING WRONG AND STILL NO CALL BACK.

By: Kv2200AD

Kv2200AD — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 02:16:19 +0000

My friend introduced me to this girl about three weeks ago and he said she was "single and looking". To make a long story short, my friend and his girl, the new girl, and myself hung out at a diner later that night. I felt like we had a connection so, afterwords, I asked "new girl" for her number. I asked, "Can I call you sometime?" She said, "Yeah, here's my number." After the second time hanging out with her at her job (she's a go go dancer), I asked her if she wanted to hang out. She said to call her. A week later, I call her and a day later, I'm still waiting for her to call. Those two times I saw her, it seemed like there was a connection between us. Now I really don't understand why she gave me her number, said she wanted to hang out, and now she hasn't call me back yet. How should I approach this situation?

By: shawn

shawn — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 15:50:31 +0000

so, i meet this girl.. talk to her and her friend for couple minutes, and leave em alone. Later in the night, I meet em again. This time, the girl I was interested in looked like she is very interested in talking.. so I offered to buy her a drink, isolate her from her friends.. talk for long time.. we have fun.. we go to dance floor.. things get quite cozy ;-)so after 30 mins or so, I kiss her bye (on the chick) she asks me to call her the next day for lunch..
I call her the next day around 3 pm.. cause i remember she said she works till 1pm.. (waited couple hours so i dont seem needy).. she doesnt answer, I leave a message.. and she doesnt call back.. i dont know what the f is the problem.. i am really clueless.. we really had great time, conversation, she wasnt drunk (obviously she had couple drinks)but everything seemed great…
this just sucks..
my message was- hey this is shawn.. met you last night at [bar name]wondering how is your day today, give me a call sometime, we will chat!
I freaken hate this!

By: MrKay

MrKay — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 01:58:57 +0000

I couldn't agree anymore about not getting hung up on the girl we just meet. There are so many issues in the society that it is futile to spend too much time trying to figure out the reasons why she does what she is doing. Of course that changes when one starts to get to know the girl a bit after a few dates.

By: Tune

Tune — Sat, 04 Aug 2007 17:28:42 +0000

Well although I admit that I am the opposite of the successful guy with women, I still believe that my opinion might be of some worth.

I believe that you don't have to wait in order to know if she will call you back, the truth is there, the chance is there, what ever you have to do, say or try just do it there on the first time even before you get her number (of course although I know what I should do as many men do know, I am unable to act in accordance to my knowledge, fear and other emotions always win, the more I like the girl the less chances I have!!!).

I mean what's the big deal about getting her number, why you believe you will be better, more confident, more attracting, more cool, more funny etc the second time you will see her! Usually it is the opposite, the second time you will be less capable, the more you connect, the more you like her, the more you think of her the more you hurt your chances!
I mean come on, give me a break about this "get number" deal, you have the chance to "play", there in front of you, you have the chance to decide going on or moving away just in front of you (and I don't mean to be fast and brutal), you have the chance to decide if it is worth and is going to work even before you get the number (this is better, you avoid spending time and heart breaking). If you cannot pass her tests on that night, if you cannot make your self comfortable with her on that night, if you don't make her wanting to stay and talk with you at those moments before getting the number why you believe will do better after getting the number.

Do not get her number, don't ask it if you know that it is not going to work. And come one guys, we know it, in every game there is a moment that the looser decides to loose (I am an expert on this), after that moment he has no chance, all he does are just unworthy moves until he realzies it is over (the sooner you realize you lost the better).

I am sorry for not being optimistic, but I will tell you one thing, the sooner you leave the better!!! even if she could be the woman of your life no problem, cause you don't know it, cause there are so many other "women of your life".

Sory for being long, conclusion: play the game before getting the number, if success then ask the number, unless you want to gain some experience in the rejection area!