You don't have to talk dirty in order to turn your girlfriend on. Below are the top 5 sexiest things to say to your girlfriend sans the potty mouth.

5. "Her name"

Sometimes boyfriends get so carried away with pet names like "gorgeous" and "beautiful" that they tend to replace those terms with their girlfriend's actual name.

In all honestly women find it extremely sexy to hear their names come from their boyfriends' mouths from time to time. So say it often. On a similar note, just like you like to hear your name shouted out in bed, didn't you ever stop to think that she might too?

Saying her name is an easy way to boost her sexual confidence—and the more confidence she has the more likely she will want to do the horizontal.

4. "I love the way specks of gold shimmer in your hair when you stand in the sun."

Compliments are the easiest way to schmooze any girl, except when they're generic. Women like to know that they're special and differentiate from the masses and the only way to truly do this is to give specific and unique compliments.

It will not only show her that you find her attractive but that you actually pay attention to detail. So make sure to focus on those unique details—like the way her eyes crinkle when she smiles or how only one dimple shows when she laughs.

Only these kinds of compliments will truly get her aroused.

3. "Are you hungry? What do you want for breakfast?"

Nothing is sexier than a man who can cook, and offering to make your girlfriend breakfast in bed with all her favorite foods is sure to score you some major points.

Even when she offers to help cook or wash the dishes, tell her you have everything under control. You don't have to do this sexy gesture all the time, but surprising her every so often is a great way to turn her on. And
who knows, maybe she'll be so pleased she'll even treat you to some morning dessert.

2. "Sweat pants, hair tied, chillin' wit no makeup on. That's when you’re the prettiest I hope that you don't take it wrong."

Rapper Drake nailed it on the money when he spat the verse in his 2009 hit "Best I Ever Had."

Some women tend to feel insecure au-natural—without makeup and un straightened or curled hair.

But assuring your girlfriend that she looks amazing even in her most vulnerable state is the epitome of sexy.

1."You're so sexy."

It might come to a surprise but sometimes simply telling your girlfriend that she's sexy is all it takes.

Even if you think she eats and breathes sexy on a daily basis, she can't read your mind. And telling her a few times in the beginning of relationship isn't enough.

She needs to hear the words and be reminded every so often. If you like what's she's wearing don't say "you look nice" or "you look cute"—she wants to feel like a desirable woman and saying "you look so sexy right now" can do the trick.

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Introduction

Yes, with statements like "Women aren't meant to be understood; but to be loved" flying around, not only does this manage to insult women but to also compliment them with the thing that captivates and befuddles them at the same time. Love, sweet love…

And while poets and philosophers have spent their time ruminating about the labor of love, the less people tend to figure out… as it isn't something that should be intellectualized. But there's a twist to it all… a baser one at that! It's called attraction, and this is something that gets the game of love started… if not having someone fall head over heels in love with dire consequences ever so often!

While what makes a woman attractive to men can often be what they see… err… beauty lies in the eye of the beholder and so on and so forth! But what about what women like… man, that's a complex question to ask… but hey, if there's one thing that women like… are men who are healthy.

However, a woman never tells unlike men who can be as subtle as a gun…

Love… skin-deep for women?

With all the hogwash that is circulating these days… men think that women are asexual beings (read: non-sexual). Nothing can be further from the truth, though…

Ask a woman if she'd prefer Brad Pitt over some average dude who works for minimum wages. And nine times out of ten, the answer would be Brad Pitt… just as men would love to be Megan Fox as opposed to the annoying girl next door who has the hots for them. Trust me, women aren't any different from men in terms of their desire for "Mr. Right Now"…

And as we all know that both men and women can be equally adept when it comes to 'skeletons in the closet', but as statistics reveal, the numbers favor the women… hands down! Hell why not… women have been "hit on" ever since they turned 18, and that streak continues until they "settle down".

And much like men who love tits, ass and beer… women like men with tight bodies (it's a genetic thing, you know!) and there are specific body parts too…

Favorite Male Body Parts that women can't get enough of…

This list of favorite body parts are based on the assumption that every woman is different, and her preferences are definitely a personal thing:

1) A nice butt

Well, we can perhaps gather that the saying "Behind every great man, there's a woman still telling him that he's wrong… and behind every woman, there's a man looking at her behind" is not necessarily true…

2) Six-pack abs

Yes, the word "six-pack" means very different things for men and women…

3) Strong and muscular forearms

Err… the ones that men use to sweep women off their feet…

4) Large biceps

The classic body part that makes a man feel like a man!

5) Broad shoulders

Every woman wants to be hoisted like Arnie hoisted those two "hotties" in the documentary on bodybuilding known as "Pumping Iron"

6) A big chest

Last but definitely not the least, as this body part is the most visible of them all…

In Closing

And ladies, start your engines… as your search for the perfect man will soon be over, ever since Willow Garage's Rosie and James have been able to flip a pancake…

Introduction

A relationship with a woman can be adequately summarized in a quote by Friedrich Nietzsche that goes, "Ah, women.  They make the highs higher and the lows more frequent."

While being in love with a woman makes life wonderful, it can also introduce a man to a "range of emotions" that they thought would have never existed. And as the paradigm in relationships (according to most men) is that women are complex, it is ironic when they think of us to be the same.

But no matter what happens in a relationship: there's one thing that a woman wants for sure, the dreaded C-word… yes, we're talking about communication here.

Verbal Intimacy: What a woman needs (and craves sometimes!)

Unfortunately, these moments of intimacy often occur especially when the man wishes to be alone (in his "cave", according to Dr. John Gray's masterpiece) leading to the woman being very displeased with this temporary "emotional stonewalling"… and which results in the man keeping the couch company for the rest of the night (or however long this moratorium will exist).

The truth is that women not only love to talk but are far better listeners than men, and according to Daniel Goleman, this is because their relationships from childhood (especially with their fellow Venusians) has been one where they share their deepest feelings and thoughts through their words and touch with the utmost sensitivity which allows them to pick up on the slightest nuances when in conversation. Men, on the other hand, are as subtle as a gun…

And perhaps it is unfair for women to expect the same type of sensitivity and understanding from their not-so-capable partners, but hey, they make (and bend, if not break!) the rules… and that's how it goes!

However, it's not that it can't be learned but it will take time for men to share information in a more feminine way, and in some cases, will only be a result of the man's willingness to do so in an effort to please their more gifted partners!

Tips on how to get "it" right with your girlfriend

Women can nitpick and complain… get used to it!

Although, most women might not agree with this… it does happen if they're unhappy with something… and it really pays if you listen to what they're saying! And in most cases, it will be about you… so get used to it!

Listen, listen, listen…

Women need someone to hear them out, and the best thing you can say to your girlfriend is to say "I'm listening.." and then actually listen by repeating words and phrases, to show that you are actually listening. Don't try to fix stuff. Just listen and don't forget to tell them that you understand…

Appreciate them

Women love compliments and surprise gifts. So compliment them on their nails, skin, hair, shoes, fashion and so on and so forth. If you love them, then it should come naturally… and also tell them "why" you paid them that compliment if they don't believe you! That will show that you are being sincere!

Be thoughtful and polite

For the world of me, getting this right will take a lot of time (being thoughtful) but can work best when they're in a vulnerable state. Being polite – that's a given… being rude is something that will not tolerate!

Play the role of Daddy, brother, lover and Little Boy all rolled into one

This is another tough one but if you love the woman, you could at least get a few brownie points if you just make the effort.

It's not only the "what" but "how" that counts

Listen not only to what they're saying but how they say it, including what you are communicating as well is important and can be tough for men. But this can only work in your favor…

Avoiding getting into arguments – you'll never win!

This one's pretty obvious… don't even go there! It's a miracle if they lose one and that too, you'll have to wait for a few years to find yourself in such a situation!

Apologize meaningfully

Look into their eyes and say you are sorry… don't try to outwit them in the "words" game – they're much smarter than you, if only blinded by their love for you!

Cocky and funny does the trick!

This is a winner with women… but in a relationship, this can keep the flame alive!

Timing is everything!

You have to time how you say what you say or else it will be wasted. If you have no clue, you can learn this from men who are apparently 'gifted' in this area!

In Closing

Don't avoid communicating with them, or else, things might not work out between you two… consider it just as important as opening communication lines with your boss which can improve your chances of getting a promotion.

Natural Aphrodisiacs! The word itself can send an itch of eagerness down your spine. All the way through the ages almost every culture has used an assortment of substances, usually herbal in source, to put some whiz into their love lives or in an endeavor to heal the impotent.

An aphrodisiac is basically a food, drug, scent or device that declares to perk up libido. It is tricky to verify or invalidate that aphrodisiacs help libido. The reality that someone uses something that seems to be an aphrodisiac has an influential impact on the mind. The consequences may be owing to psychological effects or the brain discharging certain chemicals to rouse the respective organs. The effects are so varied and indistinct that at this point of time, they can't be confirmed scientifically.

Plant aphrodisiacs consist of vegetables, fruits, nuts and grains. Some vegetables have shapes which are indicative to the mind's eye. They have thus been credited to add towards libido. The asparagus and artichoke are representative of these kinds of vegetables which are consumed in the conviction that they have extraordinary properties as implied by their exterior. Little is recognized about the chemical mechanism which performs as aphrodisiacs.

Celery is known to be full of androsterone. This is a male hormone that is capable to kindle the sexual provocation of females. All other vegetables like carrot, fennel and onion are presumed to be excellent for libido but fall short of scientific proof to support their claims.

For fruit aphrodisiacs, the banana tops the catalog. The chemical ingredients comprise of chelating minerals and the bromelain enzyme. These elements apparently advance male libido. However, there's deficiency of irrefutable proof to prop up this suggestion.

The pomegranate is a sign of fertility with its copious seeds. For the Chinese, the pomegranate represents affluence in a profuse household. The peach is a seductive fruit due to its shape and other distinctiveness. It has been credited with seductive traits but logically, it may be owing to the vitamins and minerals there in the fruit which add to the body's well-being. In the group of nuts, gingko nut is all the rage. This nut perks up blood circulation to the edges of the body, and helps in civilizing libido.

Consume grains like oats for your breakfast and familiarize the result by bedtime! Oats support the discharge of testorone in males to help libido.

Herbs and spices not only zing up your food but also your life. Basil, cardamon, clove, garlic, ginger, ginseng, pepper, asafetida and saw palmetto are all fine for adding a little flavor to your sex life.

No matter which ones you decide to employ, keep in mind that aphrodisiacs are to be consumed with a pinch of salt. If you accept them as true, it works.

What are some other natural aphrodisiacs that you've discovered?

First, we discussed women's favorite male body parts. Unfortunately, the fairer sex isn't quite as shallow as us guys.

So, even after you've gotten your physical body in shape, you still need to know more about what women look for in men. Don't worry, they aren't nearly as demanding as you might think.

Lucky for you, here is your own personal cheat sheet, so you can score a perfect 5 out of 5 on the first date pop quiz.

5 Things Women Look for in Men

1. Shaggy or snazzy. There's Ryan Seacrest-like metrosexuals, and there's Shaggy from Scooby-Doo. You want to be somewhere in between. Don't spend more time than she does getting ready, but at least make an effort to look like you care about the date.
2. Laughing her pants off. If you can make her laugh and have a good time, it's amazing how many screw-up's and stupid lines you can get away with.
3. It's just a rerun. Don't be like the last guy she dated or the next guy that's going to hit on her. Set yourself apart by showing her you "get it." Different is new. Different is fresh. Different is what she's looking for.
4. Beat the clock. It's fine to be unpredictable, spontaneous, and even mysterious, but being fashionably late isn't listed on any woman's list of turn-on's. By the same token, if you show up too early before she's done meticulously preparing every hair on her head, some other guy will probably be enjoying her hard work later, instead of you.
5. Call me Daddy. If you're looking for a long-term relationship, and she is too, you've got to show your nurturing, caring side to prove that you could take care of your future mini-me's.

Ace these 5 tips and tricks, and the answer to, "What do women look for in men?" will be, "YOU!"

Hey fellas, want to know how to eat less and lose weight?

Try asking out that cute girl in account receivables from your office to dinner. Then ask the pretty blond from the insurance division out for a bite to eat the next night. Oh, and I heard the secretary is recently single and loves that Japanese restaurant down the street.

Work your way around your office in this manner, and before you know it, you will have consumed about 35 percent less calories than you would have had you joined the guys for some grub at the bar, where you probably would have downed a few beers, devoured half of a pizza and spent close to eighty dollars on ten cent buffalo wings.

How to Eat Less

Speaking of Buffalo, there's actually research to back my crazy dinner date suggestion — which was conducted at the State University of New York at Buffalo. More or less, it seems that people tend to match their own food intake to the amount that their dining partners are consuming.

As a result, you tend to eat healthier food and smaller portions — resulting in less calories, resulting in loss of weight, resulting in a chaotic office environment …because you've now gone out with every girl that you work with.

By contrast, if you are constantly partaking in the above mentioned scenario of "Guy's Night Out," surrounded by alcohol, wings, and fries, your gut is going to grow as fast as your mounting bar tab debt.

Fortunately, the same "calorie-copying" effect can be had by men who are dining with their girlfriend or wife, so being an office gigolo is not a necessary part of this how to eat less tactic.

It may help, though, considering that you burn upwards of 150 calories during a half hour of sex.

With the season of falling leaves upon us, you may be doing a little falling yourself. Whether you just met your perfect match or have been dating (or even married) for a while, there are still several fun date ideas to get you two heated up in the cooling weather.

Plus, all ten of these dates require you to actually remove your butt from the couch and get out of the house (always good news for your waistline during what is usually a much more sedentary time of year).

Top 10 Fun Date Ideas for Fall

1. Wine Tasting and Vineyard Tours
2. County Fair
3. Apple Picking
4. Rural Ride
5. Baseball Game
6. Your Favorite Hangout
7. Holiday Party (Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas)
8. Men's Favorite…shopping!
9. Music Festival
10. Hiking (You'd be surprised how romantic this can be — even with seemingly high-maintenance girls.)

Here is a brief description of each date idea.

What are some other fun date ideas that you suggest for this time of year?

A previous study showed that you need to pick up more dumbbells to pick up more chicks, but where do women look first?

Their first stop isn't surprising (abs), but the second hot spot is quite unexpected.

And, easy on the 100-rep curl sessions, Hercules: Biceps come in at a disappointing second-to-last.

Check out their top 10, and start sculpting your own eye-catchers now!

Top 10 Muscles Women Love

1. Six-pack abs
2. Powerful forearms
3. A nice butt
4. A broad back
5. Sculpted shoulders
6. Rock-hard calves
7. The money line
8. A big chest
9. Large biceps
10. Strong hamstrings

Once you get your body parts in order, "Wow!" her even more with some interesting First Date Ideas.

Ask your wives or girlfriends if they agree or disagree, then let us know what they would change or add.

In one of our previous contests, Contest: "The Game" by Neil Strauss, members could ask any dating-related question that was holding back "Their Game."

Below is the first of those questions, along with answers, as promised, to make sure you come out on top (or on bottom?).

First Date Ideas: What is the best place to take a first date?

This is a very common concern among men: "Where do I take her?" "How much should I spend?" "Does she like Thai food?" "Is Friday night right for a first date?"

The most important thing to remember: the location is completely irrelevant.

I know that sounds cliche and frustrating, but it's true, it doesn't take an accredited online MBA to figure this out. Ask any of your female friends or relatives, and they'll tell you they much rather go grocery shopping with a fun and interesting guy than go to a fancy restaurant with a nervous and boring clamshell.

In fact, I've literally taken women along with me while running errands as a "first date." It gives both of us a chance to experience each other in everyday situations. It's less intimidating. No rules. No awkward silences. It's alive and a live show.

You're simply riffing off each other's energy, and no one knows what's coming next. You're moving around in an open world with infinite opportunities and possibilities for exciting moments.

Doesn't that sound much more exciting than being shackled and handcuffed to a corner booth, while you watch each other chew your food? I've never seen the value in going through the traditional motions of a scripted dinner-and-a-movie date. Those feel so restricting and overdone: "You look nice." "Thanks." "Is your salad good?" "Yes. Is yours?" "Yes."…blah, blah, blah…ZZZZZZZ.

I want to interact with a woman in a variety of situations to see how she handles herself and if we can enjoy each other's company anytime, anywhere, not just sit at a table and ask question like “so are you enjoying your MBA in healthcare."

So, how do you initiate this type of "date"? It's easy: Just say playfully, "Hey, I'm going to run some errands, and you're coming with me." If you had any kind of connection at all when you first met, she'll come along.

Now, it's all up to you. No matter where you take her, make it a good time. I guarantee if you can make a memorable experience out of grocery shopping or buying a new coffee table, there will be plenty more dates after the first.

And once things start heating up, here's how you can use chocolate to get her in the mood.

What are some of your best first date ideas? Ever had a terrible first date? Enlighten us in the comments!

Chocolate and sex: Two of the sweetest things on Earth.

Even though scientists recently found that chocolate isn't addictive, our melt-in-your-mouth friend scored big points in another study.

British scientists observed couples while they ate squares of dark chocolate and while they kissed passionately. Guess what fellas: We lost!

Women's heart rates rose 20 percent more and their bodies released 4 times the endorphins when they ate the cacao-rich chocolate.

It's not a total loss though. At least you know those Valentine chocolates are well worth the money.

If you really want to get technical, the women's version of "chocolate Viagra" used in the study was 65 percent cacao dark chocolate.

Haven't quite made it to the "chocolate sex" stage yet? Here are some great first date ideas.