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4 Reasons Why She Doesn’t Call You Back

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Question from FitBuff Member: Xavier from Pennsylvania
“I’m pretty good at getting girls’ numbers, but they hardly ever call back. Why would she give me her number, if she doesn’t plan on calling me back?”

Answer: Excellent question Xavier! This seemingly unusual behavior stumps the minds of many men. Here are 4 of the most common reasons why your phone isn’t ringing, along with advice on how to make sure it never stops!

You’re out for a night on the town, and you’re feeling great. Your confidence is up, your breath is minty fresh, and you’ve still got a little pump going from that workout you did a few hours ago. You spot your target over by the bar: a tall, slim, exotic beauty laughing it up with her equally hot friends. They are arranged with their backs to the bar and are facing out into the action (good sign, they’re open for approach).

You remind yourself again how great you feel and make your way over to Long-Legged Lane. You open with a funny line about them blocking your path to the bar. They all giggle, and that’s the last thing you remember. After that, everything happened so quickly, but you do remember that the tall, slim, exotic beauty gave you her number (nice work!).

The next day at home, you find the folded napkin in your pocket. Carmella. You can barely make out your half-nervous, half-excited handwriting. You dial the number…ring…ring…ring…”Hi, this is Carmella, I’m not around right now, so leave me a message after the beep.” Well, you heard the woman, she said, “leave me a message.”

“Uhh…hello…this is Bob…I met you last night at…um…that bar…I can’t think of the name of it…but, yeah, I was just calling to see if maybe you wanted to…uh…get together…ok…thanks, bye.” Wooo! That was intense, and you’re glad it’s over. Now, you sit back and wait for Carmella to call you back.

Next day. She still hasn’t called back. She must be busy, right? Probably hasn’t checked her voicemail yet. Day 3: Still nothing. But, she gave me her real number, so I know she likes me, and she’ll call back! Day 4, 5, 6: (crickets chirping)

We’ve all been in Bob’s position. What happened here? Why would a girl give us her phone number and then completely ignore our call(s)?

There are many common reasons why they torture you so, along with any number of other infinite possibilities. We’ll explore the top 4 below:

  1. Ego: Yes, it’s true. Women have egos just like us. Sometimes, when she is feeling “unsexy” or “unloved”, a woman may give you her number just to boost her self-esteem. This simple act reminds her that men find her attractive and are actively pursuing her. It doesn’t mean she’s a bad person or an attention whore–necessarily. We all have days when we could use a little boost, and we succumb to our own egos.
  2. Too Nice: Some women are just too nice. They think it’s so sweet and cute that you came over to them, they can’t shoot you down, even if they’re not attracted to you at all. So, she gives you her number, knowing that she has no intention of returning your calls. Again, not a terrible thing to do, given the alternative. Imagine being a beautiful woman who gets approached by dozens, if not hundreds, of guys per week. You’d probably find yourself doing the same thing.
  3. You Called Too Soon: There’s all sorts of “scientific” rules on how long you should wait to call. Some say 2 days, some 3 days, some an entire week! The truth is the time varies depending on every situation. In Bob’s case, he just had a brief encounter with Carmella and probably didn’t spend more than 2-3 minutes with her and her friends. Therefore, there wasn’t much of a connection made, and Carmella may have thought he came on a little too strong/desperate by calling less than 12 hours later.

    On the other hand, if you meet a woman for the first time, and you can really feel a great connection and spark between the two of you, she would probably love it if you called her the very next day. I know it’s confusing, but welcome to the wonderful world of women. The key is to assess each situation and woman. If it’s a casual meeting and you know she probably isn’t waiting by the phone for your call, then wait 2-3 days and play it cool. If you feel something special with a girl you just met and you think she does too, then call her the next day to put both of your minds at ease and set up the next meeting.

  4. Voicemail Message – You may have done everything right: smooth and confident in the opener, charmed her and had her laughing, and waited 2-3 days to call. But, once you got the voicemail on the first call, you panicked. You stumbled through your message with “uh’s” and “um’s”, and you weren’t clear on when you wanted to get together or what you wanted to do. Now, the cool, confident guy she met the other night doesn’t seem as attractive. Remember, to put it in perspective: for women, confidence ranks about as high as boobs and butts do for us!

    Whether you get the voicemail or her directly, be casual and assertive. Say, “Hey Carmella! It’s Bob, we met the other night at Mulligan’s. I’m going out Wednesday night to grab a drink, and I’d love it if you came along. My number is 555-5555. Talk to you soon!” (You’re free to use this word-for-word, but don’t get nervous and actually say “555-5555”. Insert your own number please.)

    Also, if you made a joke or any kind of funny remark that she laughed at when you first met, bring that up in the message in a humorous way. This will remind her why she gave you her number in the first place: you made her laugh and seem like a fun guy to be around (translation: you’re getting a callback!).

On the other hand, if you meet a woman for the first time, and you can really feel a great connection and spark between the two of you, she would probably love it if you called her the very next day. I know it’s confusing, but welcome to the wonderful world of women. The key is to assess each situation and woman. If it’s a casual meeting and you know she probably isn’t waiting by the phone for your call, then wait 2-3 days and play it cool. If you feel something special with a girl you just met and you think she does too, then call her the next day to put both of your minds at ease and set up the next meeting.

Whether you get the voicemail or her directly, be casual and assertive. Say, “Hey Carmella! It’s Bob, we met the other night at Mulligan’s. I’m going out Wednesday night to grab a drink, and I’d love it if you came along. My number is 555-5555. Talk to you soon!” (You’re free to use this word-for-word, but don’t get nervous and actually say “555-5555”. Insert your own number please.)

Also, if you made a joke or any kind of funny remark that she laughed at when you first met, bring that up in the message in a humorous way. This will remind her why she gave you her number in the first place: you made her laugh and seem like a fun guy to be around (translation: you’re getting a callback!).

On the other hand, if you meet a woman for the first time, and you can really feel a great connection and spark between the two of you, she would probably love it if you called her the very next day. I know it’s confusing, but welcome to the wonderful world of women. The key is to assess each situation and woman. If it’s a casual meeting and you know she probably isn’t waiting by the phone for your call, then wait 2-3 days and play it cool. If you feel something special with a girl you just met and you think she does too, then call her the next day to put both of your minds at ease and set up the next meeting.

Whether you get the voicemail or her directly, be casual and assertive. Say, “Hey Carmella! It’s Bob, we met the other night at Mulligan’s. I’m going out Wednesday night to grab a drink, and I’d love it if you came along. My number is 555-5555. Talk to you soon!” (You’re free to use this word-for-word, but don’t get nervous and actually say “555-5555”. Insert your own number please.)

Also, if you made a joke or any kind of funny remark that she laughed at when you first met, bring that up in the message in a humorous way. This will remind her why she gave you her number in the first place: you made her laugh and seem like a fun guy to be around (translation: you’re getting a callback!).

The most important thing to remember is, “Never get hung up (pun intended) on one girl you just met!” If you’ve ruled out the most common reasons for her not calling back and followed all the advice above, just move on. There’s literally an infinite number of nuances and possibilities as to why you’re calls are falling on deaf ears. It’s OK. It’s happened to even the smoothest of players, and it’s part of dating.

Now, get out there, get some more numbers, and get some more callbacks! They say, “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t shoot.” Well, “100% of the women you DON’T call will never call you back!

Do you have a success and/or failure story about getting a woman’s number? Share your experience, and tell us what happened!

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Nashville Personal Trainers for the Ultimate Body Transformation

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Some people prefer to work out at home where they’re most comfortable in. This can provide some results, but it won’t be the same if, for example, you work out with a trainer. You see, at home, you have no one to watch you and correct you if you’re doing something wrong. You can end up doing an exercise wrong all the time and risk damaging a nerve or a muscle in the body. This is not good, especially if you’re looking forward to losing weight.

Go With a Pro

Burning calories is easy. You just need to be persistent and motivated to do so. We all like to lie around in our beds, hoping to lose weight only by watching what we eat. This is not effective at all. You can lose 1 or 2 pounds by not eating unhealthy food, but it won’t make much of a difference. If you’re overweight, watching what you eat won’t be enough.

Benefits of Personal Trainers

This is where personal trainers come in handy. If you live in Tennessee, you would be able to find professional trainers very quickly. Nashville has quite the selection of experienced and knowledgeable instructors that will make all the difference in your life. Here’s why:

Quick results

If you have someone to monitor your progress continually, then you would be able to lose fat sooner. A trainer will show you the right technique for each exercise and create a nutrition plan that you have to follow. Just by following their program, you can start to notice a difference right away, instead of waiting for some miracle at home. You probably don’t know that much about a good fitness regime like a professional trainer does. Leave all the planning to the experts; you just play by their rules.

Avoiding injuries

Do you know how easy it is to pull a muscle or break a bone? Not doing the activities correctly can lead to all of that. That’s why it is safer to try your luck with a trainer and hope for the best. A trainer can guide you through all of the exercises until you learn to perfect them yourself. For example, lifting weights without guidance is the ultimate recipe for damaging your arm muscles. If you have a fitness instructor present at all times, you minimize the risk of injuries. So don’t waste any more time and find the perfect trainer for your workout.

Gaining muscle

Some prefer to lose only fat. Others want to build muscles. There can be a combination of both if you ask the right person for it. An experienced trainer will show you how to balance those things. Sure, you have to sweat and work really hard, but in the end, you’ll get the complete body transformation that you’ve been wanting since forever. Gaining muscle is a long process that involves proper nutrition like intake on proteins most of the time. You would be able to get used to that in no time, just be patient.

Setting goals

If you feel like you can’t set goals for yourself or don’t know how to, then leave it to the pros. Once you hire a personal trainer, you won’t have to worry about all of that. They can create a list of goals that you have to work really hard to achieve them. Of course, they would be here for the entire process to keep track of your progress. Setting goals will increase motivation, and they will lead you closer to your desire for the perfect body. Also, a trainer would be able to set realistic goals so that you wouldn’t lose hope.

Innovative workout routines

You can quickly get bored with repeating the same exercises over and over again. This might lead a person to quit if something repeatedly happens all the time. But, professional trainers know this. That’s why they mix up different combinations of physical activities so that each day you have something new to try out. This way, the whole fitness regime wouldn’t be monotonous. It will add to the sense of excitement and surprise trying to figure out what you will do next. Sooner or later, you can learn them all.

Establishing exercising habits

Let’s say that you’ve reached your goal. You were able to transform your body into something you’re glad of. This doesn’t mean that you should stop exercising altogether. You should continue the journey so that the body can stay fit. Believe it or not, after all that exercising and sweating, your trainer would have already made it a habit of you to exercise regularly. Once you get up in the morning, all you’ll want to do is go through a good workout. This is how things should go on in the future. Trainers pass their knowledge onto their clients to use it forever. To find out more click here.

Challenge

An excellent instructor would always challenge you to do and achieve more. Let’s say that you’ve done 50 jumping jacks. Each time your instructor would challenge you to beat your own score. This is how you get better and more confident in life. Soon you would be able to do 300 jumping jacks without breaking a sweat. It might seem impossible in the beginning, but with time and proper technique, you can achieve anything you set your mind to. You just need someone to challenge you all the way until you become a better version of yourself.

Encouragement

Everyone can have a minor setback when going through a journey of transformation. Let’s say that you’ve gained a pound or two instead of losing them. It’s normal for these things to happen. You mustn’t get discouraged once they occur. You are on the right track, but sometimes it takes a lot of time to notice a difference. This doesn’t mean that you won’t at all. Your personal trainer will encourage you constantly not to give up and embrace every setback as a lesson in life.

 

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5 Types Of Mobile Games That Can Actually Help Your Mind

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featMobile gaming is often viewed as a way to pass the time, or simply as entertainment. More often than not, these are perfectly fair descriptions. On other occasions, mobile apps and games can help optimize both body and mind!

Mobile Games & Puzzles for Brain Health

However, the mobile gaming market is vast, and among the offerings there are also some games that can help to train your mind in various ways, or in some cases improve wellness. Here, we wanted to give some examples of types of mobile games that can serve these purposes.

1. Escape Puzzles

In the real world, “escape room” attractions have become wildly popular in just the last few years. They’re generally seen as weekend recreation options for groups of friends or colleagues, but there are also those who believe they benefit your brain health. To our knowledge there aren’t in-depth studies into this phenomenon’s mental benefits just yet, but there’s certainly something to be said for the idea. Escape rooms lead to everything from positive moods to improved memory and heightened social skills. Escape puzzle games don’t carry all of the same benefits, but they are in many cases the mobile versions of the rooms, and they can certainly exercise your brain where concentration, patience, and problem-solving are concerned, at the very least.

2. Conquest Games

This isn’t quite as big a category as that of puzzle games, though there are actually different genres within the idea of a conquest-themed mobile game. What we’re referring to here though are games like the mobile versions of Sid Meier’s Civilization installments, which famously delve into real human history in quite a lot of detail. Simply put, games like these that teach real history can exercise the brain and help to improve memory, association, attention to detail, and specific knowledge.

3. Poker Games

Poker games are actually among the oldest ones available on mobile phones, though they’re steadily getting more sophisticated these days. Poker apps are included among the games spreading gradually into the U.S. through expanding gambling legislation, and even some free-to-play poker games are now employing advanced graphics and features that make them feel like the real thing. Whichever specific app you opt for though, you could actually stand to enjoy real mental benefits. Various medical studies have actually hinted at poker’s benefits in everything from improving focus and attention to detail to combating Alzheimer’s Disease!

4. Quiz Apps

Some might consider quiz apps to comprise their own category aside from gaming, but the distinction isn’t particularly important. Either way there are dozens if not hundreds of accessible quiz apps, and each and every one of them can teach specific knowledge and keep the mind sharp in general. It’s virtually never a bad idea to test your knowledge, and these kinds of games help people do it on a daily basis.

5. Brain-Trainers

Lastly, and most overtly, there are also apps specifically designed to train the brain. These are in some cases actually designed with medical input and consideration, but they’re still game-like in nature, or at least include games more often than not. The specific training varies from one app to the next, but this is definitely a category you’ll want to look to if you’re curious about using mobile games to improve your mind.

Final Thoughts

Mobile apps, games, and real-world puzzles such as escape rooms are sometimes purely for entertainment. Other cases, such as those discussed here, can be leveraged to help with brain training for better cognitive performance and perception. The best part is, these brain games can often be leveraged during times you’d otherwise be doing nothing else!

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Getting Your Health Under Control In 2019

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For many, having control over their health is a constant battle with a number of vitamin deficiencies as well as illnesses that are sometimes unavoidable it is crucial to ensure that your health is under control. Whether this is a visit to Finchley dentist to prioritise your oral health or a visit to the doctors for a checkup there are a number of ways that you can prioritise your health within a busy lifestyle.

Moving More And Sitting Less

During the course of the day, it is important to keep moving, with a lot of people sitting down throughout the day it is important to remember to move around. By adding a 10-minute walk to your daily routine this can help to improve mental health as well as your physical health. This small addition to your daily routine can help you to lose weight and maintain a suitable cholesterol level. This could help your health in the long term as this helps you to maintain a healthy weight.

The Power Of A Smile

Have you ever thought about how a smile can help you and those around you to feel better? The simple act of smiling releases chemicals into the brain helping you to channel positive emotions as a result. This act of smiling can also make you appear endearing and approachable to others allowing you to spread joy to those around you. This is something that can take practice to do but can have major health benefits. By making time to laugh and smile during the course of the day you can reduce stress and anxiety whilst helping to improve overall happiness.

Sleep

Having enough sleep is something that can be very difficult with a busy lifestyle. However, it is important to make the time. With the recommended sleep time aimed between 7-9 hours per day, it is important to look at how much sleep you are getting and how much this can affect your overall health.

If you are feeling like you cannot concentrate or are having trouble being able to focus on simple tasks, this may be a consequence of lack of sleep. In order to sleep accordingly make sure that your day is filled with exercise and activities. By filling your day with exercises and activities you will wear yourself out. This will allow you to stick to a simple sleeping schedule throughout the week.

If you struggle to fall asleep at night try relaxing before bed, whether this is through having a bath or shower or even reading a book to help you unwind, this can help you to fall asleep almost instantly.

Relaxation

Another important aspect of your health is relaxation. It is not good for your heart or your mind to be stressed 24/7 therefore, it is important to practice self-care wherever possible. With a number of meditation apps available to you both free and paid you can have a completely customisable experience based around your specific needs.

By adding ten minutes of meditation into your daily routine you can help to reduce stress and anxiety whilst helping to lower blood pressure. So with all this in mind, there are a number of considerations when thinking about your health in 2019 that are well worth considering.

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